Just Live Your Life...

Rapper TI made this phrase famous with his song "Live Your Life," American Eagle uses it as a slogan, St Francis DeSales (paraphrased) and Dr Seuss (paraphrased), have all said similar things. But what does this mean? Life your life?

I believe in destiny, and that we are the masters of our own destiny. We must take the challenges that life gives us and get through them the best as we possibly can. Earlier in the weekend, I sat down and had my tarot cards read, yes I know, what are some cards going to tell me about my life? It was incredibly unnerving that these cards and the person reading them could really get to the core of my being. Telling me things about me that only I know. From putting up barriers, to spiritual beliefs, ending up with things that I can't even begin to put words to. This 10 minute exercise cut through every wall I've put up and opened me up to a vulnerability that I can only describe as invigorating.

This being said, I've pondered on some of the things that I heard last night, and have made some resolutions. First and foremost, to quote Shakespeare's "Hamlet," "This above all, to thine own self be true." It's time to start living my life the way I choose, doing the things I want to do and for the reasons I want. I can no longer sit around and face mid-life crisis time realizing that there is too much to life to be hiding behind self constructed barriers.

Secondly, it's time to stop putting conditions on things, specifically related to relationships. I have always said, I would never date, or enter a relationship with someone that I considered to be a close friend. Why? Pretty simple, in my logical mind, I never wanted to jeopardize my standing with a friend. True friends are hard to come by, but even harder is true love. Previously self inflicted rules of dating, are now completely off the table. Whatever happens, happens, and if it doesn't work out, I would hope that the strength of friendships can overcome any potential love related wounds.

Third on the agenda, Work. The best part of my job without a doubt in my mind are the people that I work with. We've all heard of the phrase "work friends" and to a point this is true. People that we work with are at times, people that we socialize with at work, but have no real relationship or common interests outside of our employer's realm. I love the people that I work with, many of them I've known for years, and they really do transcend the "work friend" stigma, but it's time for a change. I went to Millersville with the intent on teaching High School History classes, and obviously that changed. I now have a Bachelors' Degree in History, that I really don't use in any occupational senses. That bothers me, a lot. I spent so many years working towards this degree, and to not use it really is a crime. It's time to focus on me and start using this degree, clearly, I have SOME intelligence and need to channel that towards making a difference in the world.

Finally, I need to start being more open. I wonder how many amazing people I've let slip out of my life due to the barriers that I've put up. For those of you that know me well and are reading this, you know how true this is. You've obviously passed the "Matt Test", as my dear friend Tammy calls it. It's time to start living day by day and to start letting people in. Who knows what else is out there for me...

So, its time to, in the words of TI f Rihanna, "Just live your life..."

As a footnote, you probably realize how incredibly open this is for me, and I welcome comments and other thoughts...to a point. You probably know the lines that are never to be crossed...

M

Health Care Costs

Yesterday, I brought lunch to my mother and the doctor she works for. We got to talking, and the physician she works for is part of a focus group on Health Care Costs sometime early next week. We started talking, related to the costs of health care in America, and a few shining points came out.

First, the costs of health care, particularly in Southeastern PA, have skyrocketed, coinciding with the increasing number of medical malpractice lawsuits. As we have become an increasingly litigious society, physicians are now using expensive testing to rule out potential maladies opposed to confirming possibilities. Does everyone with non specific chest pain need Cardiac Enzymes? Does everyone that falls down need a CT of their head? No. But, due to lawsuits, we have seen these tests increase as a way to prevent a potential malpractice suit. And we wonder why we have skyrocketing costs.

Secondly, uninsured and underinsured persons. With the rate of unemployment starting to rise, we have seen the ability of citizens to pay for COBRA Insurance decrease just as rapidly. When faced with a choice of putting food on the table or paying for insurance that MAY not be needed, many people are obviously choosing the former. When something does happen, we are seeing a substantial number of visits to emergency rooms, where providers are obligated to provide care, irregardless of your ability to pay. With no job, and no insurance, obviously, the ability to pay for the services rendered are inherently decreased. These costs are then passed onto the insured, and those with the ability to pay to make up for any losses therein.

Finally, lack of preventative medicine. I am part of this problem. Think about it, when was the last time you went to your physician for a "well-adult" visit? Nothing is wrong, just going for a checkup. Granted, I go to the doctor when I'm sick or absolutely have to. With a family history of diabetes and hypertension, I should be going to see my doctor much more often, in order to prescreen for these conditions, and ensure that I can slow the development of such ailments. I don't, and of course, when the time comes, I'm going to be subjected to a litany of tests and examinations, probably referred to a specialist of 2...all of which are costly, and could have been prevented.

Now, the argument of socialized medicine won't even be broached here, I think I could probably write a book on it...

Any other thoughts?

M

55 years, and Separate but Equal still reigns...

55 years ago, Chief Justice Earl Warren delivered the unanimous opinion in the landmark Brown v. Board of Education case for the United States Supreme Court. The challenge to Kansas State Law was mounted in response to school segregation. The basic gist, for those not familiar with the case, was that African American children could be schooled at all black schools, with no need to integrate African American children with white children in public schools.

This was of course stricken by the Court, citing the 14th Amendment's Equal Protection Clause. As Warren wrote

"We conclude that in the field of public education the doctrine of "separate but equal" has no place. Separate educational facilities are inherently unequal. Therefore, we hold that the plaintiffs and others similarly situated for whom the actions have been brought are, by reason of the segregation complained of, deprived of the equal protection of the laws guaranteed by the Fourteenth Amendment." (Brown v Board Opinion, p 495)

Now, why would this matter today?, the schools are no longer segregated, public education has been multi racial since that point in time. The question here comes under the 14th Amendment, as related to the California Supreme Court's recent decision, rendering Proposition 8 legal and binding. For those living under a rock, Proposition 8 sought to ban gay marriage in the State of California, which was approved with a 52-47% vote by the voters in California. Legal challenges were mounted, and eventually Prop 8 was affirmed. The interesting clause in the Prop 8 decision from the California State Supreme Court, was that all previously administered same sex marriages were allowed to stand as valid.

Why? Now, logically, and legally speaking, the 14th amendment provides that "no state shall ... deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws." Doesn't this clearly violate that provision of the Constitution? Going further, marriage and civil union; as the Warren Court declared "separate is not equal," how does this stand? Granted, no major court challenges have been mounted against this, as I am sure there will be here, but alas, I wonder, what will come of this in the Federal Courts? I have no doubt in my mind that with makeup of the current US Supreme Court, this challenge would be another highly contentious 5-4 split vote banning the practice.

It's been 55 years since Brown v Board of Education, where separate but equal does not exist. Will it reign true today? The moral and racially motivated challenges then, are no less bigoted than the theologically motivated challenges of today. It's going to be an interesting event to watch...hope I get front row seats...

Note: Feel free to comment, even argue, but leave the bashing and bs behind. This is meant to be a thought provoking piece, not a battleground...

M